Update Time

May 21, 2009

I haven’t posted in a couple weeks…but I have some good updates:

– My parents came to visit Mothers Day weekend and we had a really nice weekend filled with shopping & eating
– The semester (MBA) is finally over and I don’t have to take classes again until the Fall – woohoo! I’m still waiting on my grade in my Business Management class, but as long as I got a 64% or better on the final, I still scored an A in the class
– I had my annual review at work and it went swimmingly! Spencer was actually super nice and told me that I’m doing a great job and that I’m highly valued at the agency. He envisions moving me into more of a data analysis role in the future, and as soon as the agency’s hiring freeze is up, his priority is to hire someone that I can manage. Also, as soon as the agency’s salary freeze is up, I can also expect a nice salary bump – woohoo!
– Boyfriend & I celebrated our 1 year anniversary last week and we had a nice little staycation in the District. We stayed at a boutique hotel in Dupont, had a romantic dinner, went to a couple bars, and then ended the night with some good old fashioned sex fighting. More on that next post.
– Boyfriend & I also went to dinner at Komi (DC’s Number 1 Restaurant for 2009) with his sister & her husband. It’s a Greek-Italian fusion and overall I thought it was good, but way overpriced (about $800 for 4 people – thank god Boyfriend’s brother-in-law paid haha). It was cool to try once, but I’m not sure I would go again.
– I’m househunting! My extremely generous Dad has agreed to co-sign basically entirely pay for a condo or townhouse that I can live in! I’ll have to handle mortgage payments, insurance, and condo fees, as well as work out a long-term payment schedule to repay him for the down payment, but I can finally get out of the world of renting! So, I’ve started the process (i.e. found an agent & talked to a loan officer), and most likely I’ll go look at some places next week. I’m looking for at least a 2 bedroom/2 bathroom condo or townhouse in NoVa within walking distance to a metro on the Orange Line…exciting!!!
– Still no updates on the vacation situation. We are thinking either Costa Rica or Dominican Republic, but have not heard back from our vacation consultant.
– Boyfriend & I are going to see Coldplay tonight. He’s not that into them, but I’ve been a fan for years and I’m really excited to see them! I was reading reviews of the concert at other venues and it’s been getting phenomenal feedback.

That’s about it for now. I promise I will get back on posting more often. And I have a great story about Boyfriend & I’s romantic anniversary staycation – so stay posted!


My Roommate, Virgin Mary II

May 5, 2009

The following IM from my OCD roommate sums up why she is the most annoying freakshow on the planet:

Roomie: so my boobs are killing me! and i know that is TMI but i don’t know what the deal is. i even took a freaking pregnancy test because i was freaking out. even thought i have no reason to…unless i am a kind of virgin mary.

I need to move out.

I Guess I Should be Thankful

May 3, 2009

As I have written about before, I work in the interactive department of a full-service ad agency. My boss, Spencer, is a bit of a douche. To put it lightly. I am not the only person who works under him – there is also another girl named Stephanie (I’m going to stick with the Hills references). We’re actually pretty good friends and her dry, sarcastic wit is what gets me through many a boring day.

Stephanie has worked here longer than I have, but is still one level below me title-wise (which really doesn’t mean anything because we both do the same work despite title differences). But, after 3 years of working here, she still has not been promoted once. The amazing thing is the glaring difference between how Spencer treats her and how he treats me. It is literally like she’s Cinderella and I’m one of the step-sisters. For example, there have been times where we have both made the exact same mistakes. Spencer told me not to worry about it, and instead praised me for all of the things I’ve done correctly. But, he told Stephanie that she needs to pay more attention to detail and he doesn’t want to see the same thing happen again.

I think the reason that Spencer treats us so differently is that I play the game and Stephanie refuses to. Spencer is one of those bosses who needs an ego massage. He needs someone to make him feel important. Not to say that I kiss his ass, but if asking him for his opinion once in a while makes him feel important (and thus gets him off my back), why not? Stephanie, on the other hand, will bend over backward to make Spencer feel un-important. I think it’s what gets her through the day. She has told me that time & time again, Spencer has told her that she needs to display more enthusiasm & initiative in her work. But, when I ask him what I need to improve on, he tells me that I’m doing a great job. And, believe me, I don’t really go above & beyond. But, I guess I know the amount I need to do to get in Spencer’s good graces.

Anyways, the point of this story is that something happened today that really illustrated the double standard Spencer has for me vs. Stephanie. Since today is Friday, Stephanie & I thought it would be a good day to go out to lunch. Normally, we only get 30 mins for lunch, but once in a while we’ll go out for longer – no one has ever said anything to us about it. We recruited another girl we work with, Nose, and we headed to a local Indian joint around noon. We finished around 1 and then decided to stop at a gelato place on the way back to the office (OMG cake batter gelatto is pure heaven). So by the time we got back, it was 1:30. We ended up being out longer than we expected, but oh well. Right? Wrong.

When we got back, Stephanie saw that she had 1 missed call and 2 emails from Spencer asking her to “swing by when she’s back in the office.” She headed over to talk to him, and then came back and IM’d me about the conversation:

Stephanie: well I can’t go to lunch anymore
Sunshowers: what happened?
Stephanie: I walk in and he looks like his dog died or something and he’s like “can you close the door”
Sunshowers: oh god
Stephanie: he’s like “i don’t even want to have this conversation but where have you been for the past 2 hours”
Stephanie: I was like uh I went to lunch
Stephanie: he’s like ok well I think it’s just like common sense that you can’t leave for that long
Stephanie: if you need to be out of the office you need to give me a heads up
Sunshowers: wow…first of all, i love that he’s lecturing on common sense
Stephanie: he’s like “I don’t want to have to babysit”
Stephanie: I wanted to be like “well then why the hell are you???”
Sunshowers: seriously
Sunshowers: what a douche…did he need something urgently?
Stephanie: no he just wanted to go over some document
Stephanie: like I didn’t already know what needed to be done
Sunshowers: wtf
Stephanie: he just seemed like disappointed that he needed to talk to me about it
Stephanie: and just condescending like he usually is
Stephanie: stuff like this just makes me want to walk out though, seriously
Guess how many missed calls/emails I had from him? Zero. I even went into his office later to talk to him about something and he was in a good mood and talked to me really nicely. I guess I should be thankful that my asshole boss likes me, but I feel bad that he’s treating my friend so badly. Lame.

Vacation Planning

May 1, 2009

So Boyfriend and I are thinking of taking a vacation later this year (probably in November), so we’re I’m doing some research & planning. I was actually planning on going to India in December of this year, but I decided to hold off for now. Basically, my entire extended family lives there and I don’t get to see them very often because the flight itself is so expensive (around $1700) and then when I go, I have to use all 3 weeks of my vacation to make the trip worth the cost, so then I basically can’t take any other vacation/personal days for the rest of the year.

Anyways, since India is now out, I thought it would be nice if Boyfriend & I could take a vacation somewhere. My parents have timeshares, which they have generously offered to us, so we would only have to take care of airfare & spending money. Good deal.

The only annoying thing? Having to plan this trip entirely on my own. The deal with my parent’s timeshares is that I have to pick 1-2 locations & the dates we want to go, submit a request form, and then wait for a consultant to call me with what’s available. Easy enough, right? Wrong. I had to practically beg Boyfriend to look at the resort/location directory with me. Everytime I asked him, he said he was “too tired to process it.” Seriously? All I’m asking him to do is use his eyes…he doesn’t even have to talk to me, just point!

Finally, I got fed up the other day and forced him to sit down with me & the laptop to pick our top choices. We decided between Hawaii & Costa Rica. So I submitted the form, and now I just have to wait for the consultant to call me. But, seriously…why are guys so bad with planning!?

I’m Going to Vent

April 30, 2009

Things That Annoy the Crap Out of Me

– Metro outages: Sorry Metro, but my idea of a fun time IS NOT standing on the platform with a hundred other commuters, while you decide to off-load every train that stops by. Further, I do not appreciate sweating to death in the train, while it holds in between stations because of mechanical problems. And finally, I do not appreciate your dumbass conducters you can’t master the idea of a smooth ride…constantly accelerating & braking makes me want to vomit.

– Metro riders: Hey Metrosexual Man in a Power Suit…do you mind not reading your newspaper 2 centimeters from my face? I know you really need to get your dose of global news from “The Daily Express,” but do you think you could abstain from practically slapping me in the face when you turn the page?? Thanks.

– Metro riders (part 2): To all the riders who have trouble with  escalator etiquette, let me break it down for you. Stand Right, Walk Left. It’s not brain surgery. Don’t stand on the left side and then give me a blank stare when I say “Excuse me.”

– My Roommate: I know you’re a really social person who craves attention ALL THE TIME, and most times I’m okay with indulging you. However, when I come home from work, that is my Me Time. All I want to do is curl up under my covers, watch TV, and relax. My door is closed for a reason. Please refrain from bursting in, telling me inane details about your life, and then walking back out WITHOUT CLOSING THE DOOR, which causes me to have to get out of bed to close my door again. I’m going to start locking my door in the hopes that you will get the hint.

I think that’s it for now. It’s only 9:21AM and it’s already been a long morning. Ugh.

Law School Update

April 25, 2009

Remember Law School? My ex who un-friended me on facebook for no apparent reason? Well I have an update on that waste of life.

So I messaged him on facebook a day after his birthday to wish him and throw in a snarky comment:

“Hey, I wanted to wish you a belated happy birthday. I was going to write on your wall, but then i saw that you un-friended me. Not really sure what that’s about? I thought we were on good terms, but anyways, hope you had a good birthday and hope all is well with you.
Take Care,

He responded within like half an hour with the following gem:

“Hey [Sunshowers], thanks for the wishes. I had a great birthday. I hope you’re doing well too.

About the defriending, it’s not that we’re on bad terms or that I have any ill will. I’ve made a decision to move forward and I didn’t think I could by staying friends with you.

I do hope you are doing well with everything. Take care.

– Law School”

You made a decision to MOVE FORWARD? Seriously? We dated for 3 months over a year ago and you didn’t even touch my boobs. Get over it you weirdo.

Wedding Recap

April 22, 2009

Well, I’m back from the busiest weekend ever. Actually, I was back Monday afternoon, but too exhausted to do anything till today.

Overall, the wedding was good. Everything was beautiful and went according to schedule…no real glitches. Surprisingly there wasn’t any drama. JB’s fiancee did give me the death stare on Saturday (I’m not really sure if she knows the whole story about how I hooked up with her then-boyfriend/now-fiancee 6 years ago, but whatevs), but I managed to ignore her. Me & Lil Sis ended up spending the Saturday night at the hotel with Big Sis, so that was nice to be able to hang out with her the night before the big day. I have to give Big Sis props – she has a HUGE extended family but she really made sure that Lil Sis & I were included in her wedding every step of the way. That was nice. Lil Sis & I had to give a speech at the reception (which we wrote about 6 hours prior at the actual wedding ceremony haha), but that went really well too. We gave Big Sis’ now-husband some tips on how to keep her happy. It was funny & sweet and she loved it. So overall, great wedding. Only 2 more this year (so far).

Boyfriend came to the wedding too – he drove up to PA Saturday night (around midnight) and then ended up leaving Sunday night (like 1AM) after the reception to drive back down to DC because he had to be at work early Monday morning. And the fact that he was only at the wedding for about 24 hrs has actually kind of morphed into this whole other situation between us. I need to vent, and I need some advice.

Boyfriend & I have been dating for almost a year, and we’re pretty serious. Both of our families have been on us to seal the deal & get this show on the road…meaning get engaged and then eventually get married (Our parents are Indian and don’t really understand the concept of long-term dating). For a while, the reason this hasn’t happened yet is because he wasn’t sure if he was ready for marriage & how we would deal with married life. I have always been the one to have a lot of faith and tell him that things will work out and that we’ll be able to handle any situation that comes our way. But now, especially after this weekend, I’m not so sure.

Boyfriend has a very demanding job that takes up a lot of his time. Basically he works for his family, so there is absolutely no concept of work-life balance. He has to be ready to go at the drop of a hat to do whatever needs to be done. I know that he really does make an effort to spend time with me & be available, but it can still be a frustrating situation. And now I’m questioning how our future would be if we got married (because this shitty job situation is not one that is going to go away anytime soon). I’m not sure that I would be able to deal with a lifestyle where I pretty much only see my husband for a few hours in the evenings. He can barely get away from his job for a weeked (e.g. he wasn’t able to come to all the events for this wedding this past weekend because of job-related stuff), so I can pretty much assume that family vacations are out of the question. If we get married and eventually have children, what if he isn’t able to be around as much because of his job? That just doesn’t seem like an appealing lifestyle to me and I’m not sure that I could handle it on my own. I guess it’s hard for me to relate to him because my job is extremely flexible and I have the ability to separate work & home life very well.

So basically, I told him that I’m having all these doubts and that I don’t think we should think about moving forward until things between us start to get better. I also want to talk to some of my friends & family members who are married to get their opinions on how these types of situations are dealt with. Any advice out there?